Friday, March 29, 2024
Thursday, March 28, 2024
How to classify problems
"I split problems into two groups: muddy puddles and leaky ceilings.
Some problems are like muddy puddles. The way to clear a muddy puddle is to leave it alone. The more you mess with it, the muddier it becomes. Many of the problems I dream up when I'm overthinking or worrying or ruminating fall into this category. Is life really falling apart or am I just in a sour mood? Is this as hard as I'm making it or do I just need to go workout? Drink some water. Go for a walk. Get some sleep. Go do something else and give the puddle time to turn clear.
Other problems are like a leaky ceiling. Ignore a small leak and it will always widen. Relationship tension that goes unaddressed. Overspending that becomes a habit. One missed workout drifting into months of inactivity. Some problems multiply when left unattended. You need to intervene now.
Are you dealing with a leak or a puddle?"
Monday, March 25, 2024
Tuesday, March 5, 2024
Dear Yookie- 8th birthday approaching so soon
THIS SUMMER YOU LEARNT TO SWIM
This Summer You Learnt to Swim,
Earlier you were afraid to let off the corners -
Or would cling tight to me.
But then one day -
You dove in, first retreated to the wall, then you pushed off and
Swam to me.
How you chuckled, and then scolded me for stepping a few steps back,
A trick I played so you could swim longer.
But gradually you learnt to swim across the whole pool.
Laughing, your hair stuck to your cheeks.
This Winter You tasted the snow,
In your father’s arms, we walked down the streets of Tallinn,
Your tongue sticking out, you said, the sky is throwing little pieces of
Vanilla ice cream,
I stuck my tongue out too, to taste the tiny flakes.
They did taste like vanilla!
And then together we three ran on the road.
I was scared to fall, but you were laughing.
And then we took a tram,
That felt like our little snow globe.
And went to a Big Russian man's shop and ate warm apple pies.
This coming summer you will be a big sister.
You will learn to take care of your older doggie Juno and the new tummy person-
As you call him or her.
You will suddenly see that the blanket in which we snuggle
Will have more tiny hands and feets.
Pulling your tiny fingers, you fear that “it” will also pull your hair.
Or sleep in-between you and me.
And we will figure this out together
And maybe you will suddenly grow up.
But I will always be there,
To lift you high, so high that you can touch the MOON.
With you in my life, all this world is soul and water, with
Light reflecting off everything.
The coming summer you will learn a lot of things,
You will maybe learn to swim away from me.
And I will learn to stand and wait for you.
To swim back to me.