Dear yooki

I love you more than i love my life

There is this whole corona virus

Thing so papa is wearing masks to airport.

We doing facetime while u sleep with juno.

Hello 2020!!

Happened to read an old post and realized when I am forced to write, I become better.
2020 has started in a good note.

A quick update for anyone who knows me only through this blog - I have a daughter now - she will be turning 4 in May!

And I have a movie- Cargo - India's first scifi spaceship film. And we are hiting SXSW and lots of Scifi Fests all over the world. So well all the struggle that I documented since 2008 did indeed culminate into something.
But well I hope I am wiser now to not judge life based on milestones but on the basis ofd aily state of being.
In the posts to follow, I will be talking about lots of things, primary movies but also minimalism, sustainability and general musings.
I happened to read my old blogs and all I can say is I am surely a more mellow version of myself.
I hope to blog more often now. As it helps gives me some center.

Love.

(More about movie via reviews:

FirstPost:

https://www.firstpost.com/entertainment/jio-mami-21st-mumbai-film-festival-arati-kadavs-cargo-will-undoubtedly-develop-cult-following-over-time-7529151.html/amp

Huffington Post:

https://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/cargo-mami-anurag-kashyap_in_5daead66e4b08cfcc3214d74?utm_hp_ref=in-entertainment )

Yoo and me

At the park. I was outside as juno is not allowed in kids play area- u came and kissed me and your dad clicked the moment. 

Love you choti beti. 

Btw if utube works and the below link works - do see this amazing masterclass on film direction by all the great masters of 2020. Love. 

https://youtu.be/oZf5L8nF3xc

13 life lessons

1. Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind. Cultivate that capacity for "negative capability." We live in a culture where one of the greatest social disgraces is not having an opinion, so we often form our "opinions" based on superficial impressions or the borrowed ideas of others, without investing the time and thought that cultivating true conviction necessitates. We then go around asserting these donned opinions and clinging to them as anchors to our own reality. It's enormously disorienting to simply say, "I don't know." But it's infinitely more rewarding to understand than to be right — even if that means changing your mind about a topic, an ideology, or, above all, yourself.
2. Do nothing for prestige or status or money or approval alone. As Paul Graham observed, "prestige is like a powerful magnet that warps even your beliefs about what you enjoy. It causes you to work not on what you like, but what you'd like to like." Those extrinsic motivators are fine and can feel life-affirming in the moment, but they ultimately don't make it thrilling to get up in the morning and gratifying to go to sleep at night — and, in fact, they can often distract and detract from the things that do offer those deeper rewards.
3. Be generous. Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words. It's so much easier to be a critic than a celebrator. Always remember there is a human being on the other end of every exchange and behind every cultural artifact being critiqued. To understand and be understood, those are among life's greatest gifts, and every interaction is an opportunity to exchange them.
4. Build pockets of stillness into your life. Meditate. Go for walks. Ride your bike going nowhere in particular. There is a creative purpose to daydreaming, even to boredom. The best ideas come to us when we stop actively trying to coax the muse into manifesting and let the fragments of experience float around our unconscious mind in order to click into new combinations. Without this essential stage of unconscious processing, the entire flow of the creative process is broken. Most important, sleep. Besides being the greatest creative aphrodisiac, sleep also affects our every waking moment, dictates our social rhythm, and even mediates our negative moods. Be as religious and disciplined about your sleep as you are about your work. We tend to wear our ability to get by on little sleep as some sort of badge of honor that validates our work ethic. But what it really is is a profound failure of self-respect and of priorities. What could possibly be more important than your health and your sanity, from which all else springs?

5. When people tell you who they are, Maya Angelou famously advised, believe them. Just as important, however, when people try to tell you who you are, don't believe them. You are the only custodian of your own integrity, and the assumptions made by those that misunderstand who you are and what you stand for reveal a great deal about them and absolutely nothing about you.
6. Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. Ours is a culture that measures our worth as human beings by our efficiency, our earnings, our ability to perform this or that. The cult of productivity has its place, but worshipping at its altar daily robs us of the very capacity for joy and wonder that makes life worth living — for, as Annie Dillard memorably put it, "how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives."
7. "Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time." This is borrowed from the wise and wonderful Debbie Millman, for it's hard to better capture something so fundamental yet so impatiently overlooked in our culture of immediacy. The myth of the overnight success is just that — a myth — as well as a reminder that our present definition of success needs serious retuning. The flower doesn't go from bud to blossom in one spritely burst and yet, as a culture, we're disinterested in the tedium of the blossoming. But that's where all the real magic unfolds in the making of one's character and destiny.
8. Seek out what magnifies your spirit. Patti Smith, in discussing William Blake and her creative influences, talks about writers and artists who magnified her spirit — it's a beautiful phrase and a beautiful notion. Who are the people, ideas, and books that magnify your spirit? Find them, hold on to them, and visit them often. Use them not only as a remedy once spiritual malaise has already infected your vitality but as a vaccine administered while you are healthy to protect your radiance.
9. Don't be afraid to be an idealist. There is much to be said for our responsibility as creators and consumers of that constant dynamic interaction we call culture — which side of the fault line between catering and creating are we to stand on? The commercial enterprise is conditioning us to believe that the road to success is paved with catering to existing demands — give the people cat GIFs, the narrative goes, because cat GIFs are what the people want. But E.B. White, one of our last great idealists, was eternally right when he asserted half a century ago that the role of the writer is "to lift people up, not lower them down" — a role each of us is called to with increasing urgency, whatever cog we may be in the machinery of society. Supply creates its own demand. Only by consistently supplying it can we hope to increase the demand for the substantive over the superficial — in our individual lives and in the collective dream called culture.
10. Don't just resist cynicism — fight it actively. Fight it in yourself, for this ungainly beast lays dormant in each of us, and counter it in those you love and engage with, by modeling its opposite. Cynicism often masquerades as nobler faculties and dispositions, but is categorically inferior. Unlike that great Rilkean life-expanding doubt, it is a contracting force. Unlike critical thinking, that pillar of reason and necessary counterpart to hope, it is inherently uncreative, unconstructive, and spiritually corrosive. Life, like the universe itself, tolerates no stasis — in the absence of growth, decay usurps the order. Like all forms of destruction, cynicism is infinitely easier and lazier than construction. There is nothing more difficult yet more gratifying in our society than living with sincerity and acting from a place of largehearted, constructive, rational faith in the human spirit, continually bending toward growth and betterment. This remains the most potent antidote to cynicism. Today, especially, it is an act of courage and resistance.

And here are the three new additions, which refine some of the subtler ideas and ideals contemplated above: 

11. A reflection originally offered on the cusp of Year 11, by way of a wonderful poem about pi: Question your maps and models of the universe, both inner and outer, and continually test them against the raw input of reality. Our maps are still maps, approximating the landscape of truth from the territories of the knowable — incomplete representational models that always leave more to map, more to fathom, because the selfsame forces that made the universe also made the figuring instrument with which we try to comprehend it.
12. Because Year 12 is the year in which I finished writing Figuring(though it emanates from my entire life), and because the sentiment, which appears in the prelude, is the guiding credo to which the rest of the book is a 576-page footnote, I will leave it as it stands: There are infinitely many kinds of beautiful lives.
13. In any bond of depth and significance, forgive, forgive, forgive. And then forgive again. The richest relationships are lifeboats, but they are also submarines that descend to the darkest and most disquieting places, to the unfathomed trenches of the soul where our deepest shames and foibles and vulnerabilities live, where we are less than we would like to be. Forgiveness is the alchemy by which the shame transforms into the honor and privilege of being invited into another's darkness and having them witness your own with the undimmed light of love, of sympathy, of nonjudgmental understanding. Forgiveness is the engine of buoyancy that keeps the submarine rising again and again toward the light, so that it may become a lifeboat once more.

Advice to a friend

Dear yooki- was sharing tips with someone struggling and i thought i could put these down for you.



Thanks *** for sharing. This is such an important conversation and the way this industry is unstructured (this being my second career), I had a tough time adjusting to the uncertainities and state of constant hustling.
I arrived at the following multiple solutions - you can pick what works for you.

1) Adding Routine- I started adding routine to my days - dedicated 3-4 hours to exclusively writing only everyday (which are literally the purest hours that fuel my days and on days i am really stuck I see a classic film and read up discussions and video essays. So 4 hours of my everyday across space and time dedicated to creating ideas or working on stories that stick or craft improvement - (eg as a starter pack i would reco seeing movie Alien and seeing the best possible making ever or even GDT's masterclasses on youtube teaches one so much)

2) Exercise and morning walks - the endorphin theory is true.

3)Restarted Reading- I gave myself the goal of a book a week (reading instead of phone before sleeping) (days i am busy i read a very small book or a short story but it must be read). It enriched my story idea bank and helped me disconnect.

4)Acquiring new skills- I subscribed to free stanford and coursera courses on city design, philosophy and photoshop. There is a chinese saying - every skill doubles your chance of success.

5)Mentoring - many of us dont realize how lucky we are even to be in this group. There are still lots of young girls who are trying to find a foothold in the industry so many young graduates from film schools who are so lost. Its counter-intuitive but empowering someone when you are lowest low, you end up empowering yourself and also start finding your tribe. This point even extends to helping peers and seniors.

6)5 am club- on the days u have no work - it is even more important to wake up at 5 am to catch this world by surprise. Trust me on this.

7) Meditation, prayers, chanting, yoga- whatever helps you find your center, focus your goals and helps you reach a higher state of being really helps.

8)Taking a family member into confidence- Find your hype person. It can be your sibling or cousin or even your parent. You will be surprised how invested they are in your happiness.

9)Reaching out to friends and immediate community for a social life outside work - esp enthu friends who love to cook or organize events are such blessings and we shld befriend them immediately.

10) Never ever - Never ever even have a second's doubt in your potential and capabilities. Eg Trump is the president.

Once I reassimilated myself, I had - due to my routine- enough ideas to pitch to the world, or to even make myself. Additionally I was less desperate for external validations. It gave me lots of courage and intrinsic happiness. I really started optimising for energy and even now I exclusively work and reach out to people whose energies feel right.

Disconnecting, restrategizing (restructuring) and reengaging is the key.

I am sure there are lot more ideas some even better but I truly felt like sharing mine.

(Sorry for the long post)

Today is 02-02-2020 - a palindrome day

Kindness scales up

Its so important to know that being kind has long term benefits and even at the short term you are giving away, you will benefit a lot in the long term.

Kindness scales up more that competitiveness and is a better cement to built your team/company on. It creates an open trustworthy culture for everyone.

Lessons from scott adams book

Felt it was some really useful tips and guidance:

1. Have a system not goal (e.g eating right versus i will lose 10 kilos)
2. Optimize for energy  (any person, thing, job makes u less enthusiastic in your day to day should be avoided)
3. Every skill acquired doubles your chance of success 
4. Pick the delusion that works (believe u will win oscar - it motivates in right direction and manages- manage attitude humour and smile (e.g I arati kadav will be oscar worthy director) 
5. Skills you must acquire in life - public speaking, psychology, business writing, accounting, design, conversation, overcoming shyness, second language, proper grammar, persuasion, tech, proper voice technique 
6. 3 habits of successful people - no fear of embarrassment, education of field, exercise 
7. Use affirmations - e.g say "i yuvishka srivastava will be the richest woman in the world" to yourself 3/4 times to hack your mind
8. Happiness - flexible schedule, directional nature of happiness (so try taking things where ur skill improve with time), imagination (pessimism is poor imagination) , sleep, diet, exercise—— eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, imagine an incredible future, work towards a flexible schedule, do things you can steadily improve, help others, reduce daily decisions to routine.
9. Fitness and diet most important to become successful over time
10. 3 kinds of people- selfish, stupid, burden on soceity so be selfish. Overtime you will make sweeping contribution to the society if u become self reliant. 
11. Dont make exercise and food will power dependent- infact make it easier to exercise by eg decoupling wearing outfit and exercising, fill your house with healthy food, eat satiating food if you are sleep deprived etc 

Print and frame (yooki with nana)

Lasting help comes from within

"While fixing and saving and trying to rescue is futile, radical self-care is quantum, and it radiates out from you into the atmosphere like a little fresh air. It's a huge gift to the world. When people respond by saying, "Well, isn't she full of herself," just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa and make both of you a nice cup of tea. Being full of affection for one's goofy, self-centered, cranky, annoying self is home." 

Some great life observations - esp on life being a paradox, our inside selves being outside time and space and her basic operating principles for sensitive types - and above all knowing that lasting help only comes from within.

https://www.ted.com/talks/anne_lamott_12_truths_i_learned_from_life_and_writing?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Bengali poha

- wash & Soak poha (say a little more than a fistful)
- chop an inch of ginger very finely
- one green chillie (or not for Yookstar)
- one aloo diced small
- in the kadhai take a teaspoon of ghee
- add kala jeera once the ghee warms
- add ginger, chillie and aloo
- once the aloo turns golden brown, add the soaked poha.
- add namak & sugar as per taste
- toss it all and take it off flame

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Filmmaking is all about —

"Filmmaking is all about orchestrating an accident"

It's a very unique art form that way!
Anyways if you get a chance read - "into the spiderverse" script. You will learn so much about formatting like a professional.

It is nice to learn those. But my suggestion is - formatting shld be done before submitting to anyone. When you are writing yourself, you should optimize for a mental state that is ideal for you to get max ideas and completely surrender yourself to the moment.

Writing is Rewriting. So may be 6-7 drafts before you reach the "first shareble draft" and last 1 and 2 drsfrs shld be focussed in formatting and comfort of reading.

Remember story, a lacking emotion, character underdevelopment cannot be fixed in either treatment or direction or in post.

So writing is *the most* important step. Also trust your own honest feedback to yourself. Trust your intuition.

Mumbai nasik drive -

You me nani asim juno saurabh drove from mumbau to nasik and took a break at starbucks in the highway !!

Unicorn uki

Reading with papa

Its not me but your papa

Who gives you bath every morning before school.

When baby gets a scolding

Happy holidays 2019

Yooki

One thing you have genetically inherited from me is giving people multiple identities. you were calling me "tafiti" (ref:moana) and "big bad mouse" (ref:gruffalo) but now that Christmas is here I am being called "reindeer". Example use - "reindeer i want to do susu."🎄🤶 😘