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Sabudana kheer vegan with jaggery (rem to add jaggery at the end after its slightly off gas) Cucumber and fresh grated coconut with tadka Boiled baby potatoes - don’t peel them Pumpkin garlicky rice with coriander lime ginger dressing Boiled sprouts plus suran traditional indian recipe And deconstructed modaks in banana leaves
Achievements are great. It is satisfying to accomplish something. It feels good to win. And many achievements make the world a better place, too.
But also remember to ask, "What am I really trying to accomplish here?" You may realize the goal is not to write a best-selling book or earn that promotion or get into medical school, but rather to build a life you enjoy. And there are many versions of a life you enjoy.
It is often the case that if you can release the narrative of "I have to do this" to be happy, then a different (but equally lovely) life is waiting for you."
"I ask myself: are defeats necessary?
Well, necessary or not, they happen. When we first begin fighting for a dream, we have no experience and make mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times."
"The recipe for frustration is taking on something that requires a whole person, but only giving it half your time.
Look at what you're trying to do. What is required? Some things can only be done well when they are pursued with full effort."
"It's hard to learn when you feel defensive.
Relax. You are capable and you can recover from whatever you face.
You can accept feedback without taking it personally. What is this moment teaching you?"
"All the water in the world cannot sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. All the negativity in the world cannot sink a person unless it gets inside the mind."
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"The secret of being happy consists of knowing how to enjoy yourself—enjoy being at table, in bed, enjoy standing up, sitting down, enjoy the nearest ray of sunshine, the slightest bit of landscape: in other words, love everything." |
Psychologist and author Adam Grant shares a question for sparking better conversation... "When you meet someone new, don't ask: What do you do? It limits what people share about themselves to a job description. Instead, try: What do you love to do? It ignites curiosity and invites people to express their distinctive interests." |
It’s Supposed to Be Hard: |
Everything worth pursuing comes with a little pain. The trick is not minding that it hurts. This is one of the most useful life skills – enduring the pain when necessary rather than assuming there’s a hack, or a shortcut, around it. |
A simple rule that’s obvious but easy to ignore is that nothing worth pursuing is free. How could it be otherwise? Everything has a price, and the price is usually proportionate to the potential rewards. Most things worth pursuing charge their fee in the form of stress, uncertainty, dealing with quirky people, bureaucracy, other people’s conflicting incentives, hassle, nonsense, long hours, and constant doubt. That’s the overhead cost of getting ahead. A lot of times that price is worth paying. But you have to realize that it’s a price that must be paid. There are few coupons, and sales are rare. |
Every industry and career is different, but there’s universal value in accepting hassle when reality demands it. Compounding is fueled by endurance, so sitting through periods of insanity is not a defect; it’s accepting an optimal level of hassle. Another upside of this is that once you accept a certain level of inefficiency, you stop denying its existence and have a clearer view of how the world works. |