Patience and art of not taking things personally

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow.”

- old chinese proverb

"The recipe for frustration is taking on something that requires a whole person, but only giving it half your time.

Look at what you're trying to do. What is required? Some things can only be done well when they are pursued with full effort."

"It's hard to learn when you feel defensive.

Relax. You are capable and you can recover from whatever you face.

You can accept feedback without taking it personally. What is this moment teaching you?"

"All the water in the world cannot sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. All the negativity in the world cannot sink a person unless it gets inside the mind."

"The secret of being happy consists of knowing how to enjoy yourself—enjoy being at table, in bed, enjoy standing up, sitting down, enjoy the nearest ray of sunshine, the slightest bit of landscape: in other words, love everything."

Psychologist and author Adam Grant shares a question for sparking better conversation... "When you meet someone new, don't ask: What do you do? It limits what people share about themselves to a job description. Instead, try: What do you love to do? It ignites curiosity and invites people to express their distinctive interests."

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"'Whenever someone creates something with all of their heart, then that creation is given a soul.' "

Yooki’s notebook cover

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Every morning keeping 10 mins of schedule making time

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Prithvi’s second birthday

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Found these recipes in art showcase

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It's Supposed to be Hard!

It’s Supposed to Be Hard:

Everything worth pursuing comes with a little pain. The trick is not minding that it hurts. This is one of the most useful life skills – enduring the pain when necessary rather than assuming there’s a hack, or a shortcut, around it.

A simple rule that’s obvious but easy to ignore is that nothing worth pursuing is free. How could it be otherwise? Everything has a price, and the price is usually proportionate to the potential rewards. Most things worth pursuing charge their fee in the form of stress, uncertainty, dealing with quirky people, bureaucracy, other people’s conflicting incentives, hassle, nonsense, long hours, and constant doubt. That’s the overhead cost of getting ahead. A lot of times that price is worth paying. But you have to realize that it’s a price that must be paid. There are few coupons, and sales are rare.

Every industry and career is different, but there’s universal value in accepting hassle when reality demands it. Compounding is fueled by endurance, so sitting through periods of insanity is not a defect; it’s accepting an optimal level of hassle. Another upside of this is that once you accept a certain level of inefficiency, you stop denying its existence and have a clearer view of how the world works.

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"'Whenever someone creates something with all of their heart, then that creation is given a soul.' "

some wisdom and lovely to see that prithvi's happy place is yooki

The best view of the game is probably from the stands. But that's not where the action is. And so you have to decide, do you want a nice view or do you want to be in the thick of it and playing the game?

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On luck:

Luck flows through people and travels by conversation. The people you talk to determine the opportunities you find.

Keep talking to the same people, keep finding the same opportunities. Start talking to new people, start finding new opportunities.

If you want different luck, start walking into different rooms."

On self-image:

You will rarely outperform your self-image.

On people management:

No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important. Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, "Make me feel important." Never forget this message when working with people.

On non-urgency of mediocre problems:

Often we fail to improve our lives simply because things don't get bad enough. If your new job is hell, you’ll leave it, but if it’s just unsatisfying, you’ll likely grind it out. Thus, small problems often threaten our quality of life more than big ones.

Throwback Nani yooki

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Yooki’s 10th birthday was epic

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Throwback

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Date with prithvi

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Best baby girl

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my petal

 

baby yooki is my fav

 

Hk touchdown - almost a tradition to goto a very Chinese place in airport

thoughts for the day

1) You Have Zero Control Over Someone Else's Opinion of You:

Poet Mary Oliver asked this question in her poem, The Summer Day: "Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" I don't know what your answer to Mary Oliver's question is, but I do know this: Whatever it is that you plan to do, other people are going to have an opinion about it.

People will have negative opinions about you and there is absolutely nothing you can do to change this fact. When you allow your fear of what other people think to stop you from doing what you want to do, you become a prisoner to other people's opinions. This fear impacts every aspect of your life. It makes your procrastinate. It makes you doubt yourself. It paralyzes you with perfectionism. It's the reason you overthink.

It is impossible to control someone else's thoughts. Therefore, fearing what other people think, or trying to control their thoughts, is a complete waste of your time. You will never feel in control of your life, your feelings, your thoughts, or your actions until you stop being consumed with or trying to control what other people think about you.

The fact is, adults will have negative opinions about you, no matter what you do. Why? Because adults are allowed to think whatever they want. It is physically and neurologically impossible for you to control what someone else thinks. The average human being has about 70,000 thoughts a day. Most of which are random and cannot be controlled. Starting today, you are going to grant people the freedom to think negative thoughts about you. Let Them.

2) Keep Showing Up:

You have a beautiful and amazing life to live. You have potential beyond your imagination. You are not limited by where you live, or the circumstances you are facing, or the aspects of your life that you believe are limitations.

If you can be honest with yourself about what you truly want, and take responsibility for creating it, you will. You don't have to be special. You just have to get up every day, put one foot in front of the other, and work hard to do a little better, and be a little better, than you were yesterday. And one of these days, you are going to wake up and realize that you not only changed yourself, but you are in the middle of living the life you were once jealous of.

Let others have their success and leverage it to fuel your own journey. Other people's success is evidence that you can do it too. By turning inspiration into action, you begin to build the extraordinary life you deserve.

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"'Whenever someone creates something with all of their heart, then that creation is given a soul.' "

Yooki’s basketball match

Mummy yooki date

Yooki’s magazine

Prithvi yooki nani

Nana Nani

Yooki Prithvi

Selfie with a without baby

Breakfast

Prithvi being carried

Family breakkie

Yooki and me

Yooki in musuem

Baby yooki with bua

Idea Marathon

Dr Takeo Higuchi and the idea of the Idea Marathon

Dr Higuchi often speaks about creativity using the metaphor of a marathon, not a sprint. The Idea Marathon is his way of reframing how we relate to ideas, writing, and creative work—especially for thinkers, educators, and artists who feel the pressure to be "original" all the time.

Here's the essence of the idea:

1. Ideas are built through endurance

Dr Higuchi reminds us that meaningful ideas are not sudden flashes. They are born through staying with a theme over time, returning to it again and again, even when it feels dry or repetitive.

Creativity matures through persistence, not excitement.

2. Daily writing is the training

Just as a marathon runner trains every day, he encourages writing every day—not to produce masterpieces, but to strengthen creative stamina. Some days are slow, some clumsy. All days count.

3. Repetition deepens insight

Revisiting the same idea from different angles allows it to evolve. What seems "already said" often reveals a deeper layer when approached with patience and sincerity.

4. Don't chase novelty—chase continuity

He gently warns against obsession with new ideas. Instead, he values continuity of inquiry. Staying loyal to a question is often more powerful than constantly searching for new ones.

5. The ordinary days matter most

In the Idea Marathon, uninspired days are not failures; they are part of the terrain. Dr Higuchi says these days build the inner strength that makes breakthrough moments possible.

6. Creativity as human revolution

For him, the marathon is not only intellectual—it is spiritual. Showing up daily to think, write, and reflect is an act of inner transformation. Over time, this steady effort reshapes one's life, not just one's work.

7. Finish lines are not the goal

Unlike a race, the Idea Marathon has no final finish. The purpose is not completion, but a lifelong dialogue with ideas—one that continues to deepen compassion, wisdom, and contribution.

In a quiet but radical way, Dr Higuchi is saying:
Creativity is not talent—it is commitment over time.

Innovation

yooki has worked very hard on her post office stall - making detailed charts etc - cannot wait for tomorrow - we will go to ois fest

"To simplify before you understand the details is ignorance. To simplify after you understand the details is genius." ---- Most inventors find that they need to keep 'just trying' things. Tolerance of error is therefore critical. Of all the lessons of innovations in the book, I think the most relevant is Thomas Edison's. Edison understood better than anybody before, and many since, that innovation is itself a product, the manufacturing of which is a team effort requiring trial and error. He tested more than 6000 plant materials till he found the right kind of bamboo for the filament of a light bulb. 'I've not failed,' he once said. 'I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.'

Starting his career in the telegraph industry and diversifying into stock-ticker machines, he step up a laboratory in Menlo Park, New Jersey, in 1876, to do what he called 'the invention business', later moving to an even bigger outfit in West Orange. He assembled a team of 200 skilled craftsmen and scientist and worked them ruthlessly hard. Edison's approach worked: within six years he had registered 400 patents. He remained relentlessly focused on finding out what the world needed and then inventing ways of meeting the needs, rather than the other way around. The method of invention was always trial and error. In developing the nickel-iron battery his employees undertook 50,000 experiments.

Invention, he famously said, is 1 percent inspiration and 99 percent perspiration. Yet in effect what he was doing was not invention, so much as innovation: turning ideas into practical, reliable and affordable reality. 2) How Innovation Works: The main ingredient in the secret sauce that leads to innovation is freedom. Freedom to exchange, experiment, imagine, invest and fail; freedom from exploration or restriction by chiefs, priests and thieves; freedom on the part of consumers to reward the innovations they like and reject the ones they do not. Innovation is the child of freedom, because it is a free, creative attempt to satisfy freely expressed human desires.  This reliance on freedom explains why innovation cannot easily be planned, because neither human wishes nor the means of their satisfaction are easy to anticipate in the detail required; why innovation none the less seems inevitable in retrospect, because the link between desire and satisfaction is only then manifest; why innovation is a collective and collaborative business, because one mind knows too little about other minds; why innovation is organic because it must be a response to an authentic and free desire, not what somebody in authority thinks we should want; why nobody really knows how to cause innovation, because no one can make people want something. Innovation happens when ideas can meet and mate, when experiment is encouraged, when people and goods can move freely and when money can flow towards fresh concepts, when those who invest can be sure their rewards will not be stolen. Innovation is the child of freedom and the parent of prosperity. --- "Work is endless. Exercise is endless. Parenting is endless. Same with marriage, writing, investing, creating, and more. You get to choose the parts of your life, but many of the important things in life cannot be "finished." Do not approach an endless game with a finite mindset. The objective is not to be done, but to settle into a daily lifestyle you can sustain and that allows you to make daily progress on the areas that matter. Embrace the fact that life is continual and look for ways to enjoy the daily practice."

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"'Whenever someone creates something with all of their heart, then that creation is given a soul.' "