Dealing with set backs that make you cry

 Yooki you faced one of your first set backs when u worked hard for an exam and didn't do so well. 

I however remind you of the zen saying of reframing the problem. And some more things. I say this because you are a beautiful emotional child. But you tend to get upset when you see failures. And failures are important part of growth. 

A Zen Koan

A master approaches his student while holding a large, switch-like stick in his hands. He tells his student:

"If you tell me the stick is real, then I will beat you with it. If you tell me the stick is not real, then I will beat you with it. If you say nothing, then I will beat you with it."

And so, the student reaches out, grabs the stick, and breaks it.

This is my point. My point will always be one of agency.

Once you see the game, you can break the stick.

Always remember somewhere, at this very moment, someone appears to be doing better than you. Their progress is faster. Perhaps their business grows more quickly or their career is advancing rapidly. Maybe dating is easy for them or their progress in the gym seems to come effortlessly. In any domain, there is always another life that shimmers more than your own.

But comparison is a poor use of energy. You were not meant to inhabit someone else's story. You have your own work to do. The goal is not to beat their life, the goal is to live your life. Keep your eyes on your own paper. Stay on the path and continue forward, even when progress feels slow.

Don't ruminate, activate.

I find it is difficult to think my way into a better mood. When I sit and stew, the problem usually grows larger in my mind.

But if I activate — even if it's unrelated to the problem at hand — my mood tends to improve. Action breaks the spell. Move your body, go outside, play an instrument, work in a different room, do something.

Movement changes your state. And when your state changes, your perspective changes. New solutions appear. You notice options that were invisible when your mind was stuck running the same loop.

Always remember-
If you want to get warm you must stand near the fire: if you want to be wet you must get into the water. If you want long life, joy, power, peace, eternal life, you must get close to, or even into, the thing that has them.

Als

o